Lorraine Breitman of mediateyournjdivorce.com and breitmanlaw.com discusses the struggle of the Jewish woman trapped in a divorce with a man who refuses to let her go.

Divorce at the Movies: What Maisie Knew

After I did my first movie blog on Shoot the Moon, several individuals told me to see the movie What Maisie Knew. I guess because it was described to me as “divorce through a child’s eyes,” I assumed that it was a child’s movie. Well, we all know what happens when you assume. However, my…

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Divorce at the Movies: Heart Burn

Continuing down my list of divorce movies to watch, I recently saw Heart Burn (1986). I thought, “Meryl Streep (Rachel) and Jack Nicholson (Mark)… I need to see this one.” Well, I loved the cast because it also includes Jeff Daniels, Stockard Channing (Julie) and Paul Masur. It’s a Mike Nichols film written by Nora…

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Divorce at the Movies: Shoot the Moon

Recently, a networking group, of which I am a member, requested door prize donations to promote “Your business.” So I made a donation. Q: What does a divorce attorney/mediator/collaborative practitioner/parenting time coordinator donate to promote her business? A: Some good old divorce movies and a few cute knick knacks.   During the conversations that ensued…

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Before You Start the Divorce Process…

You can’t make another person be something they aren’t. In a perfect world,  you probably would not be getting divorced. So whether you are going to go through mediation, the collaborative process or litigation, your soon-to-be-ex-spouse is not going to have a major personality change. If he was selfish during the marriage, he will be…

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Working it Out

Recently, I have had some friends come to me for marital advice. Actually, they were in very low points of their marriages and wanted my advice as a divorce attorney. I guess they figured I’m an expert on bad marriages. I guess after 25 years of working with divorcing couples, I probably am. Neither friend…

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Visitation…My Least Favorite Word

In every episode that I’ve ever seen of Inside the Actor’s Studio, James Lipton asks his guests to state their least favorite word. Well if he were to ask me, I would answer,“VISITATION”. The word “visitation” makes me cringe because it conjures up images of parents no longer being parents but rather observers in their…

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Therapy Can Be an Important Part of the Divorce Process

One of the things that I have noticed over the course of my career as a family law attorney is that people going through the divorce process have an unwillingness to go to therapy even though they could benefit greatly from the process. “I don’t need help, I’m dealing with it” or “I need a…

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Settlement Agreements and Your Child’s School District

Most divorcing couples with children realize that they have to address the issue of college in their settlement agreements but many don’t realize that they need to address their elementary and secondary education as well. So here are a few suggestions of issues you should address. 1 – Choice of School District In New Jersey…

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A Review Attorney is What?

No matter who you ask – a family law attorney, an individual going through a divorce, an individual whose neighbor’s barber is going through a divorce – they all have different answers as to the question of “What is a review attorney?” Since being a review attorney is part of my practice, I decided to…

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What Are You Thinking?

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